With the recent unfortunate loss of a famous Bollywood personality, India is beginning to discuss mental health. Although this is a step in the right direction, everybody seems to have assumed the role of a therapist. Before we jump into the misconceptions, we need to understand what mental health is and why it is important, especially during the lockdown.
CW: Mental illness and mention of self harm and suicide.
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What is mental health?
According to mentalhealth.gov, it is our emotional, psychological and social well-being. It influences our ability to handle stress, relates to others and make choices. The causes of mental health problems could be due to biological factors, life experience such as trauma or abuse, and associated family history.
Importance of mental health awareness
Just like how sound physical health is essential to carry out a daily routine, balanced mental health is also a necessity. It determines our motivation levels, decision making, and problem-solving skills. This, in turn, affects productivity at school/work and even interpersonal relationships. This is not to say anybody with mental illness will not take responsible decisions, or be able to maintain healthy relationships but their judgements might be clouded by the problems faced by them.
Mental health vs mental illness
Mental illness, unlike mental health, is associated with conditions for which there are standard criteria used to diagnose them. You can have good mental health but be living with a mental illness that is being treated successfully. If mental health issues aren’t regulated over an extended period, it could lead to mental illness. It should be noted that not all temporary sadness or frustration is related to mental illness. If the person affected is going through a prolonged period of irritability, sadness, anxiousness, it is always better to seek medical intervention.
Misconceptions about mental illness
“Reach out to me when you need someone”
This was a sentiment shared by many on social media platforms on hearing about the death of Sushant Singh. Firstly, it needs to be understood that people with mental illness are often misunderstood. It is not easy to talk to just anyone, let alone voluntarily approaching strangers about one’s turmoil.
Secondly, even if a person is ready to open up, you may not have the right tools and expertise to help them or simply may not have the emotional capacity to be there for them at the time. This doesn’t make you a terrible friend/family member. Some things are better left to professionals.
“You are overreacting”
Contrary to offering help, dismissing one's problems can do more damage than good. Everyone has a different threshold to conflicts. Negotiating how somebody else is feeling only makes them feel like they’re not being heard or understood. It is important to listen and provide support, for them to feel safe and that their problems are valid.
“Take a walk / Exercise”
There is no denying that exercise has numerous benefits. It releases chemicals like endorphins and serotonin that improves your mood. It can reduce sleep and stress-related issues. It also improves self-confidence, memory and concentration. It is a great way to keep your mind active and stimulated, but there is no scientific proof that exercise alone can cure mental illnesses. Implying one should exercise or ‘sleep it off, could come off as disregarding the underlying issues.
“You / I should’ve been there”
Although the support of friends and family indeed makes the healing process easier for people with mental illness, nobody can be solely responsible for another person’s mental health. It is unfair to play the blame game, especially in extreme cases such as self-harm and suicide.
How can I help?
Educate yourself of the symptoms of different common mental illnesses.
Express your concern and willingness to listen, without judgement.
Let them share however much or little as they are comfortable.
Be mindful of your language when you address issues that concern you. You mustn’t diagnose them.
Politely offer advice or suggestions but don’t force them into making decisions.
Encourage them to talk to a mental health professional and remind them seeking help is okay.
Address any barriers standing in the way of seeking help.
Support them through their progress, which might be slow and imperfect.
Support their healthy lifestyle changes.
Be there for them within your limited capacity.
Tips for good mental health
Get enough sleep.
Eat well.
Stay hydrated.
Get fresh air and sunlight.
Do minimal physical activity - 30 mins walk or basic stretches.
Do mental exercises - playing games, reading books, learning a new skill.
Socialise with people you love.
Recognise and regulate stress-related issues.
Ask for help when you need it.
In today’s day and age, it isn’t enough if we are merely aware of mental health and illnesses. It is our responsibility not to harm anybody intentionally. Everybody’s mental health matters - that includes acquaintances, colleagues and even the people you dislike. Having good intention isn’t enough if our actions speak otherwise.
Mental health is not a trend. Strictly avoid performative activism, giving out a diagnosis or ill-informed advice.
Always choose kindness. Take care of yourself and the ones around you.
*Please note: The aforementioned tips can be practised by any person to maintain good mental health. These, however, do not substitute medical care and attention. If you are battling mental health issues or suicidal thoughts, please contact your local mental health care professional or dial the free suicide helpline number at the earliest.